The Marriage Rules

   The Marriage Rules is about the realities of marriage and having done considerable research following my own divorce (after 25 years of marriage) I discovered a fatal flaw in the “Love, Marriage, Baby Carriage” formula.

           

   I would also like to point out that although my own marriage crashed and burned, I still think it is a wonderful institution. The happiest years of my life were spend with my former wife and two kids. So this won’t be some marriage bashing blog post.

   Here is fatal flaw number 1. The idea that “After we’re married we’ll get to know each other better as the years go by.”

   Stupidest plan ever.

   The most dangerous thing about getting married is that it’s similar to deciding to do something you would only do when you’re drunk or high.

   Because when you are in love you are high! You got those rose colored glasses on and their very voice is a sedative for your soul. They complete you, they make getting up in the morning worthwhile, your love will grow stronger as the years go by.

    No it won’t.

    Because as Bryan Ferry once sang, “Love is a drug”.

    And it is, but that doesn’t mean that once the love drug wears off, you’re in for a life of misery and heartache. What you will discover is whether your spouse is your best friend or your worst enemy.

     

     I can’t think of anything better than spending your life with your best friend.

    Or anything worse than spending it with your worse enemy.

     

    Unfortunately too many people discover they made the mistake of marrying the wrong person AFTER they’re married. And this mistake could have been avoided if they had only taken the time to do one thing.

    And that is to ask specific questions on every issue they consider important.

    In my research on divorce I discovered the main reason new marriages fail is because the two future partners hadn’t taken the time to REALLY get to know one another. Because in their love drugged condition, the warning sign weren’t noticed or acknowledged.

    Imagine this conversation shortly after being married. “Wait! Are you actually telling me you’re a Satanist? And that you worship Satan?

    “Of course I am! Why do you think I wear this upside down cross all the time or start each morning with the words, “Hail Satan?”

    Might cause a little tension in the marriage, don’t you think?

    Or this one. “I really like Kyle and Tiffany. They’re so much fun to be around and hang out with. You know what would be fun? Us having sex with them.”

    “What!!??? Are you out of your mind?”

    Yeah, I see trouble down the road for those folks too.

    No marriage is destruction proof. (I thought mine was.) But if you want to really increase the odds of your marriage going the distance then the both of you need to sit down and ask each other specific questions on how he or she feels about things that are important to you.

   Don’t know what questions to ask?

   I do. And I put them in a book I wrote called The Marriage Rules: The 100 Questions You and Your Future Spouse MUST Answer BEFORE Getting Married.

    Here’s the link: http://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Rules-Zackary-Richards-ebook/dp/B00EZVOCHW/ref=sr_1_6_title_0_main?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1390585579&sr=1-6&keywords=zackary+richards

One of the great tragedies of life is marrying someone, finding out he or she is not the person you thought they were and then divorcing, severing all ties with someone who, had you not married them, could have remained a close friend throughout your life.

That old saying “Marry in haste, repent in leisure,” is one the great truisms. 

So don’t let it happen to you. Download a copy of The Marriage Rules: The 100 Questions You and Your Future Spouse MUST Answer BEFORE Getting Married. Then sit down with your future partner, answer all the questions and know for sure that you’re marrying the right person.

And if your life is too hectic to sit down and read, no problem, The Marriage Rules: The 100 Questions You and Your Future Spouse MUST Answer BEFORE Getting Married. Is also available as an audio book. So you can hear the questions you need to ask while you are busy, say during you daily commute or jog.

Here’s the link: http://www.audible.com/pd/Self-Development/The-Marriage-Rules-Audiobook/B00HYLVLQU/ref=a_search_c4_1_5_srTtl?qid=1390585441&sr=1-5

Deciding to get married is likely the biggest decision you will make during your life. So it’s important that you do everything possible to make sure your decision is the right one. So download The Marriage Rules: The 100 Questions You and Your Future Spouse MUST Answer BEFORE Getting Married.

Today.

http://www.amazon.com/Marriage-Rules-Zackary-Richards-ebook/dp/B00EZVOCHW/ref=sr_1_6_title_0_main?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1390585579&sr=1-6&keywords=zackary+richards

           

The Marriage Rules

Too often people who love one another, don't really know each other. They marry and discover they are not at all compatible. Their likes and dislikes are at opposites sides of the spectrum. Eventually fights erupt, accusations fly and two people who once truly loved one another and could have remained friends for a lifetime are now at each others throats.

   That doesn't have to happen. In fact it can easily be avoided.

   How?

   Well, look at it this way. If you were going in for surgery wouldn't you want to make sure your doctor knew exactly what he was doing? If buying a house wouldn't you have it inspected by a certified contractor to make sure the foundation was sound and the building properly constructed? If retaining a lawyer wouldn't you check his credentials to make sure he was fully qualified to protect your interests?

   Of course you would. All of the above are life changing events. Yet every day, people, blinded by love, marry and discover all to late that they don't know the person they pledged to spend a lifetime with.

   So before you get in too deep why not find out who your future lifelong partner really is? 

   If he or she has personality traits or beliefs that you find offensive or are complete deal-breakers wouldn't it be better to know now rather than after your first child is born and you just settled into your new house?

   Marriage is a lot different now than it was during our parents time. There are a number of new issues our parents generation never had to deal with. One of the main reasons that half of all marriages fail is because we deluded ourselves into thinking our spouses possessed certain qualities that, upon taking a closer look, they clearly never had.

   Still marriage is a wonderful thing. It truly is if you've found the right person and they love you as much as you love them.

   Then again, it could be a nightmare if you've bound yourself to someone who has revealed themselves to be nothing like the person you thought they were.

   The Marriage Rules contains 100 questions future spouses should ask and answer before getting married. These questions are carefully formulated so that each partner can see how the other thinks, how they will react in certain situations and perhaps give them a glimpse of what their marriage will be like before tying the knot.

    Marriage should be a lifelong commitment so before pledging your undying love to someone, before having children with them, before vowing to love, honor and cherish them until death do you part, ask and answer the 100 questions with your future spouse.

    There are no tricks or psychological ah-ha! moments. The questions merely show how a person feels about everyday things. Some questions are as simple as: Do you want pets? Others dig deeper. For example: Has anyone in your family ever been convicted of a sex crime? Do you have a DWI/DUI on your record (This can affect your car insurance premiums) Have you ever been married before? Had children outside of marriage? (in some states your salary can be considered an addition to your spouses income and used to increase child support payments) How do you feel about people of other colors or religions? And many others that reveal various sides to a person's personality that usually don't surface until months and sometimes years after marrying.
 

   So download your copy today for yourself or lend it to a friend who's about to be married. Because its always a good idea to know if the two people getting married are marrying the right person
To read a sample on Amazon click on this link:  http://amzn.to/1aUjsFN