Relationships: What Women Don’t Understand About Men

   The differences between men and women couldn’t be any clearer than it is in women’s romance novels. The men in these stories are strong, brave and true but that is only the template. What is really brought to the reader’s attention is how attentive the male characters are. They listen to the women, defer to their judgment, and constantly tell them in the most romantic way possible just how beautiful they are, how sexy they are, how important they are to the man’s happiness.

   Seriously, it’s hilarious!

   There are only two real male personalities that actually act in that manner, gay guys and playas. This is why women like having gay guys as friends because they listen, compliment them by telling them how beautiful and sexy they are and see to their needs.

   Playas understand it too, which is why women are constantly surprised when playas romance the hell out of them, then, once the sex is over, its ‘Buh-Bye.”

   Scott Adams the ‘Dilbert’ cartoonist gives what I think is the best explanation as to why women are so disappointed with men.

   The scene begins with a woman coming to Dogbert for advice.

   Woman: I’m considering dating man but I’m worried.

   Dogbert: What’s his name?

   Woman: Bill… His name is Bill.

   Dogbert: Ahh… Bill… Yes, I know all about Bill. He has no emotional depth and thinks of your conversations as mere chatter. He wants your body, not your mind. Several times a day, Bill imagines himself with different women.

   Woman (disappointed) Darn, This time I thought I’d found a normal guy.

   Dogbert: Okay, then I have some really bad news for you.

   Real men are nothing like the men portrayed in romance novels. Not like most of the men portrayed on TV. But women don’t want to accept this and firmly believe the man who is just like those portrayed in romance novels is out there and all she needs to do is find him.

   Good luck with that!

   Because if you do find him, don’t be surprised if somewhere down the line he announces that he has a secret boyfriend. Or learn that not only is he the most romantic guy to you, he is also the most romantic guy to a bunch of other women he is banging.

  Or worse, a woman goes after a ‘Bad Boy’. On the TV show ‘The Big Bang Theory’ the attractive female friend ‘Penny’ complains to Leonard and Sheldon that, “I’m always dating guys who only think about themselves, treat me like dirt and break my heart. What’s wrong with me, am I stupid?”

   To which, after a moment’s thought, Sheldon replies. “Yes, you are.”

   And she is! Why? Because she let her ego convince her that she could ‘change him’ with her super-duper sexuality.

   Ladies, I’ve written books on Marriage amzn.to/1eAfCRo and Divorce http://amzn.to/IsPV9U and I’m going to save you a lot of pain and misery by telling you the hard and unvarnished truth.

   Stop searching for a man who will sweep you off your feet with romance and passion. Every one of those guys has something up his sleeve that will break your heart.

   Here’s what to look for instead. Find a guy who truly likes you. Love fades but a strong friendship can last a lifetime. Find a guy who is kind when he doesn’t have to be. Find a guy who is strong during difficult times, who values your opinion, who is stable, fair and honest.

  And yes, over time he very well may become a balding, potbellied, beer drinking football watching, fart machine but he will always put the welfare of you and the kids first, and he’ll be faithful, be a great father and role model, a passionate lover, a solid provider and your best friend.

   And if that’s not enough, then don’t get married because, believe me, it will not end well.

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The Marriage Rules

Too often people who love one another, don't really know each other. They marry and discover they are not at all compatible. Their likes and dislikes are at opposites sides of the spectrum. Eventually fights erupt, accusations fly and two people who once truly loved one another and could have remained friends for a lifetime are now at each others throats.

   That doesn't have to happen. In fact it can easily be avoided.

   How?

   Well, look at it this way. If you were going in for surgery wouldn't you want to make sure your doctor knew exactly what he was doing? If buying a house wouldn't you have it inspected by a certified contractor to make sure the foundation was sound and the building properly constructed? If retaining a lawyer wouldn't you check his credentials to make sure he was fully qualified to protect your interests?

   Of course you would. All of the above are life changing events. Yet every day, people, blinded by love, marry and discover all to late that they don't know the person they pledged to spend a lifetime with.

   So before you get in too deep why not find out who your future lifelong partner really is? 

   If he or she has personality traits or beliefs that you find offensive or are complete deal-breakers wouldn't it be better to know now rather than after your first child is born and you just settled into your new house?

   Marriage is a lot different now than it was during our parents time. There are a number of new issues our parents generation never had to deal with. One of the main reasons that half of all marriages fail is because we deluded ourselves into thinking our spouses possessed certain qualities that, upon taking a closer look, they clearly never had.

   Still marriage is a wonderful thing. It truly is if you've found the right person and they love you as much as you love them.

   Then again, it could be a nightmare if you've bound yourself to someone who has revealed themselves to be nothing like the person you thought they were.

   The Marriage Rules contains 100 questions future spouses should ask and answer before getting married. These questions are carefully formulated so that each partner can see how the other thinks, how they will react in certain situations and perhaps give them a glimpse of what their marriage will be like before tying the knot.

    Marriage should be a lifelong commitment so before pledging your undying love to someone, before having children with them, before vowing to love, honor and cherish them until death do you part, ask and answer the 100 questions with your future spouse.

    There are no tricks or psychological ah-ha! moments. The questions merely show how a person feels about everyday things. Some questions are as simple as: Do you want pets? Others dig deeper. For example: Has anyone in your family ever been convicted of a sex crime? Do you have a DWI/DUI on your record (This can affect your car insurance premiums) Have you ever been married before? Had children outside of marriage? (in some states your salary can be considered an addition to your spouses income and used to increase child support payments) How do you feel about people of other colors or religions? And many others that reveal various sides to a person's personality that usually don't surface until months and sometimes years after marrying.
 

   So download your copy today for yourself or lend it to a friend who's about to be married. Because its always a good idea to know if the two people getting married are marrying the right person
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